Comments on: Shame on Me. And You and You and You. http://www.toulouseandtonic.com/shame-on-me-and-you-and-you-and-you/ Making my kids hate me one post at a time. Fri, 01 Nov 2013 16:41:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.6.1 By: ashersmom http://www.toulouseandtonic.com/shame-on-me-and-you-and-you-and-you/#comment-934 ashersmom Mon, 29 Oct 2012 16:35:52 +0000 http://www.toulouseandtonic.com/?p=2973#comment-934 Oh honey, I feel your pain. Just remember, that “perfect” mom you see kissing her angels on their rosy cheeks in the park probably has a flask hidden in her baby bag. It’s the hardest job on earth and every one of us is just trying to keep it together enough to keep the kids alive and not lose our car keys again. Mwuahhh to you!

]]> By: Amy Hartman http://www.toulouseandtonic.com/shame-on-me-and-you-and-you-and-you/#comment-933 Amy Hartman Mon, 29 Oct 2012 16:21:12 +0000 http://www.toulouseandtonic.com/?p=2973#comment-933 So glad I found this post… i needed to read this! I’m a new SAHM, who just moved to a new state where I don’t know anyone, of a 2 year old and 2 week old. I’ve been feeling like a crazy person trying to keep everything straight, and wondering wtf these other moms know that I don’t who have it all together & whose husbands probably don’t have to remind them what a hairbrush is. Thank you, THANK YOU, for letting us all know that this is real life, and no mom is June Cleaver :)

]]> By: ashersmom http://www.toulouseandtonic.com/shame-on-me-and-you-and-you-and-you/#comment-767 ashersmom Fri, 12 Oct 2012 15:06:08 +0000 http://www.toulouseandtonic.com/?p=2973#comment-767 Thank you so much. It really is so much harder than anyone generally admits and it just ends up making us feel worse and more depressed and crazy to think we’re the only ones. This is not to say there aren’t lots of genuinely beautiful moments of mommyhood, but they are generally followed by the kid slapping you upside the face (either figuratively or literally)!

]]> By: ashersmom http://www.toulouseandtonic.com/shame-on-me-and-you-and-you-and-you/#comment-766 ashersmom Fri, 12 Oct 2012 15:03:23 +0000 http://www.toulouseandtonic.com/?p=2973#comment-766 EXACTLY. Like swilling gin stashed in the laundry hamper when no one else is looking! You should do your own mom shame!

]]> By: Robin Jingjit http://www.toulouseandtonic.com/shame-on-me-and-you-and-you-and-you/#comment-764 Robin Jingjit Fri, 12 Oct 2012 13:54:16 +0000 http://www.toulouseandtonic.com/?p=2973#comment-764 I love this. All these momshame moments. Because it’s awful when you think about the fact that the women who make you feel like you are a bad mom because they’re so together are probably hiding stuff that they would never admit to anyone because it would make them look like a bad mom.
Like a twisted version of finding out years later that the boy you had a crush on but never dared to admit actually liked you, but never did anything about it either!
This “momshame” movement dovetails perfectly with my life philosophy which I like to call the power of admitting.

]]> By: Donya http://www.toulouseandtonic.com/shame-on-me-and-you-and-you-and-you/#comment-761 Donya Fri, 12 Oct 2012 12:43:30 +0000 http://www.toulouseandtonic.com/?p=2973#comment-761 “I was suddenly a SAHM in a new city with no friends. And certainly no friends with kids. I had never been particularly close with a single SAHM mom EVER. The fantasy photo in my head about what it would be like to be a SAHM was off. Understatement of the decade. I was depressed about how hard, unrelenting and stressful it was and how isolated I felt and mostly, about how TOGETHER other moms seemed when I saw them out with their kids. I thought they knew something that I didn’t know.”

This struck so close to home for me! You probably don’t remember me, but I went to school with your husband and live here in Atlanta. I have an almost-two-year old and became a SAHM after my little tyrant was born. It has been tough, honestly, feeling lonely here and not having any friends with kids (or any close friends, period) here in town. I have definitely had those days where I see a couple moms with their small kids hanging out and feel like I am missing out and am completely isolated. It was so easy to make friends at school or work, but this feels like a wasteland.

Anyway, I just wanted to say I love your writing and that you ARE brave to be open about the dark comedy side of mommydom. ;) Cause sometimes, you just have to laugh at the crazy/exhausting/absurd/never-ending shit that we go through everyday and say “fuck it” to the judgers. So thank you.

]]> By: ashersmom http://www.toulouseandtonic.com/shame-on-me-and-you-and-you-and-you/#comment-746 ashersmom Wed, 10 Oct 2012 02:01:17 +0000 http://www.toulouseandtonic.com/?p=2973#comment-746 Thanks, babe. It’s not often you get a pat on the back for shaming yourself so I’ll take it!

]]> By: Laura @ Stroller Parking Only http://www.toulouseandtonic.com/shame-on-me-and-you-and-you-and-you/#comment-745 Laura @ Stroller Parking Only Tue, 09 Oct 2012 22:51:33 +0000 http://www.toulouseandtonic.com/?p=2973#comment-745 Exaaaaactly! We all have “mom-shamey” moments (days? weeks?), but we’re not all brave enough to “mom shame”. Good work, lady!

]]> By: ashersmom http://www.toulouseandtonic.com/shame-on-me-and-you-and-you-and-you/#comment-744 ashersmom Tue, 09 Oct 2012 22:18:01 +0000 http://www.toulouseandtonic.com/?p=2973#comment-744 And now you’ve made me cry. Because I really need to know someone GETS IT. Thank you so much. : )

]]> By: ashersmom http://www.toulouseandtonic.com/shame-on-me-and-you-and-you-and-you/#comment-743 ashersmom Tue, 09 Oct 2012 22:16:53 +0000 http://www.toulouseandtonic.com/?p=2973#comment-743 Amen. It’s a whole other experience when you’re alone with no family and no friends, isn’t it? I keep telling people who have family around that they have NO IDEA!

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