20 Things The Second Baby Taught Me

My little one will be 3 in a couple of months and I’m feeling nostalgic as his babyhood slips away.  I remember wondering if there was enough room in my heart to love another child as much as I loved the first one.  Turns out, there was no need to worry — and this one from last winter proves it.

There’s no bigger change in a woman’s life than becoming a mother for the first time. With my first child, it seemed like every day brought 100 new surprises.

But when I became pregnant for the second time, I thought I got this! And in some ways, that was true. I didn’t stress nearly as much about every little thing. But I quickly learned that boy #2 was his own person — and that I still had a lot to learn.

Here’s what I learned from the second baby.differences between first and second child

1.  Just because your pregnancy went a certain way with the first child doesn’t mean it will go anything like that with the next one.

2.  A baby doesn’t have to be carried all that carefully.  In fact, he’ll adjust quite easily to being carried like a football.

3.  You’ll worry to death about the first one no longer being “an only child” while you’re pregnant.  He’ll be just fine.

4.  Even a relatively young baby will find a way to fight with her older sibling.

5.  Five stained onsies can make up a baby’s entire wardrobe.

6.  You can survive bed rest even though you’ll be convinced you’ll never make it.  You might be surly, but you can do it.

7.  Your body doesn’t bounce back quite as well with the second one (if it ever did in the first place).

8.  You can indeed be more tired than you ever thought possible.

9.  A baby doesn’t really need shoes.

10.  You can do the same things you did with the first one and the second one will still turn out totally different.

11.  You no longer think having one kid is hard.

12.  No, you will not have any “me” time.  No one is “off” anymore — you’re now in man-to-man coverage.

13.  You’re not a yeller, you say?  Well, you are now.

14.  I do not indeed have an unlistenable singing voice.

15.  Some kids do not like TV.  At all.

16.  Sometimes the closest thing to a break you’ll get will be lying on the floor while 2 children straddle you and yell “Yeehaw!”

17.  Child-proofing is not child-proof.

18.  A small child can scale a piece of furniture before you have time to wipe your nose.

19.  If the older child laughs at him, he’ll do absolutely anything over and over and over and over.  The older child doesn’t laugh at good behavior.

20.  There is enough room in your heart to love another child just as much as you loved the first one. I promise.

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  1. Truer words have never been spoken!! My second didn’t wear shoes until he could walk well enough to need them! He thought they were so weird!! And I don’t know if tired adequately described it, I would say exhausted beyond all comprehension!!

  2. Ha. I had my first and last at once. Yup, twins. I’m impressed that people actually do this more than once. 🙂

  3. We just welcomed our 2nd in January and I’ve definitely worried that the older sister will become jealous of him, I cringe every time I use the excuse that I can’t do something with or for her at the moment because the baby needs…. so I try to go out of my way to make sure I have time for just her sometimes too.

    Oh, and “A small child can scale a piece of furniture before you have time to wipe your nose,” so true! Stairs too, my brother’s 1-year-old proved this to me the other day.

    • It’ll all balance out. There’s definitely some jealousy at first (well, even later) but as long as they both know you love them with all our heart, it’ll work out. Look at me being sappy! ; )

  4. Oh my! I saw this on pinterest and I am so in love! Everything you stated sounds like it came out of my mind after my second child was born! I can’t relate enough! I’m a new follower for sure!


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