Daddy’s Parenting Wisdom

This post was actually written 3 years ago but my  husband’s wisdom stands the test of time. Read it and weep (with laughter).

This past weekend, I left my husband and the boys here to fend for themselves while I went to BlogU.  To their credit, I barely heard from them the entire time I was there – and let’s be frank, all 3 of them are usually guilty of asking me where the peanut butter is while staring right at it.

Why your kids behave better for him than you. #DaddysParentingWisdom - Toulouse and TonicWhen I did talk to Gabe on Sunday while I was waiting around in the Charlotte, NC airport with about 3 million other waylaid people, because … American Airlines …

he informed me that the boys slept until 10:00am both Saturday and Sunday mornings (they wake at 6:30am for me), didn’t fight (I have no idea what their normal, non-fighting voices sound like) and played alone quietly so he could get stuff done (what is this played alone thing of which you speak?). He may not have said it, but there was an implied, “Learn from me, grasshopper!”

Leave your boys with your husband and 3 things will happen:The fabulous Paige Kellerman and I got to spend a good amount of time together over the weekend, which was so fun for me, and during one of our discussions we talked about this very thing – how her kids will also give her husband all kinds of space but crawl all over her every minute of the day.  What is this phenomenon?  Why do they behave differently for their fathers?

Gabe’s theory is well-illustrated by a story from his weekend alone with the boys.  He took both of them out to run errands.  In the parking lot of Lowe’s, Meyer was being very, uh, 2.  Throwing fits, melting down, squirming out of Gabe’s arms.  He finally had enough and gave him a little pop on the behind.  That’s probably not too shocking, right?  Plenty of people dole out a little corporeal punishment now and then.  Hell, I got spankings aplenty when I was growing up.  The funny part is that some lady who saw the “pop” approached him as he was putting the kids in the car and THANKED him for raising his kids right – informing him that not nearly enough people do that anymore.

That is not how I thought that story was gonna go.

As for me, I almost never use any kind of physical force/punishment with my boys.  I didn’t like it when it was used on me and I don’t like to use it on them.

But their dad thinks this (or maybe what it represents) is the very reason they’re so different with me. And he likes to give me advice about how to “man-up” my parenting.

Here are some of my favorite #DaddysParentingWisdom quotes, from Gabe to me to you.Daddy's Parenting Wisdom - Toulouse & TonicDaddy's Parenting Wisdom - Toulouse & TonicWhy they behave better for him than you. #DaddysParentingWisdom - Toulouse & TonicI was so tired by the time I made it home from BlogU on Sunday, we all just passed out immediately and lucky for me, both boys had camp Monday morning so I got to actually recover a bit.

Monday afternoon when they got home, I noticed they both smelled, well, HEINOUS.  Not just the been-at-camp-all-day, Tevas-without-socks kind of boy stink but the wandering-in-the-desert-for-30-years kind of boy stink.  I asked Gabe, “When’s the last time these boys had a bath?”  His response:  “Does the pool count?”

Uh, no.  Not unless you used soap.  See, daddy doesn’t know everything.

What do you think about Gabe’s parenting wisdom?  Does your husband have any parenting quotes that make you laugh?


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  1. It’s true!

  2. I actually think it has to do with which parent is home more. I’m home with my kids all day, so Mommy Time is ordinary, and in that time I’m constantly (from their POV) placing demands upon them: go here, do this, don’t do that, etc. on the other hand, Daddy Time is special, and because he places fewer demands on them they don’t get tired of listening to him like they do me.

    • I think you have some valid points here, Elizabeth. I am, indeed the one that’s with them all the time. I think it’s a lot easier to be “beat down” by them when you’re with them 24/7 and easier to stick to your guns all the time when you’re not.

  3. Yes I too agree..
    But what I have noticed or may b I think for boys, they all think in terms of strength and power. They behave well under someone more physically strong whether he/she spank or not. My son is so impressed by his dad’s muscles however he has never even yelled at him.
    But boys are boys comparison of power is always their.

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Daddy’s Parenting Wisdom

This post was actually written 3 years ago but my  husband’s wisdom stands the test of time. Read it and weep (with laughter).

This past weekend, I left my husband and the boys here to fend for themselves while I went to BlogU.  To their credit, I barely heard from them the entire time I was there – and let’s be frank, all 3 of them are usually guilty of asking me where the peanut butter is while staring right at it.

Why your kids behave better for him than you. #DaddysParentingWisdom - Toulouse and TonicWhen I did talk to Gabe on Sunday while I was waiting around in the Charlotte, NC airport with about 3 million other waylaid people, because … American Airlines …

he informed me that the boys slept until 10:00am both Saturday and Sunday mornings (they wake at 6:30am for me), didn’t fight (I have no idea what their normal, non-fighting voices sound like) and played alone quietly so he could get stuff done (what is this played alone thing of which you speak?). He may not have said it, but there was an implied, “Learn from me, grasshopper!”

Leave your boys with your husband and 3 things will happen:The fabulous Paige Kellerman and I got to spend a good amount of time together over the weekend, which was so fun for me, and during one of our discussions we talked about this very thing – how her kids will also give her husband all kinds of space but crawl all over her every minute of the day.  What is this phenomenon?  Why do they behave differently for their fathers?

Gabe’s theory is well-illustrated by a story from his weekend alone with the boys.  He took both of them out to run errands.  In the parking lot of Lowe’s, Meyer was being very, uh, 2.  Throwing fits, melting down, squirming out of Gabe’s arms.  He finally had enough and gave him a little pop on the behind.  That’s probably not too shocking, right?  Plenty of people dole out a little corporeal punishment now and then.  Hell, I got spankings aplenty when I was growing up.  The funny part is that some lady who saw the “pop” approached him as he was putting the kids in the car and THANKED him for raising his kids right – informing him that not nearly enough people do that anymore.

That is not how I thought that story was gonna go.

As for me, I almost never use any kind of physical force/punishment with my boys.  I didn’t like it when it was used on me and I don’t like to use it on them.

But their dad thinks this (or maybe what it represents) is the very reason they’re so different with me. And he likes to give me advice about how to “man-up” my parenting.

Here are some of my favorite #DaddysParentingWisdom quotes, from Gabe to me to you.Daddy's Parenting Wisdom - Toulouse & TonicDaddy's Parenting Wisdom - Toulouse & TonicWhy they behave better for him than you. #DaddysParentingWisdom - Toulouse & TonicI was so tired by the time I made it home from BlogU on Sunday, we all just passed out immediately and lucky for me, both boys had camp Monday morning so I got to actually recover a bit.

Monday afternoon when they got home, I noticed they both smelled, well, HEINOUS.  Not just the been-at-camp-all-day, Tevas-without-socks kind of boy stink but the wandering-in-the-desert-for-30-years kind of boy stink.  I asked Gabe, “When’s the last time these boys had a bath?”  His response:  “Does the pool count?”

Uh, no.  Not unless you used soap.  See, daddy doesn’t know everything.

What do you think about Gabe’s parenting wisdom?  Does your husband have any parenting quotes that make you laugh?

  1. I actually think it has to do with which parent is home more. I’m home with my kids all day, so Mommy Time is ordinary, and in that time I’m constantly (from their POV) placing demands upon them: go here, do this, don’t do that, etc. on the other hand, Daddy Time is special, and because he places fewer demands on them they don’t get tired of listening to him like they do me.

    1. Toulouse says:

      I think you have some valid points here, Elizabeth. I am, indeed the one that’s with them all the time. I think it’s a lot easier to be “beat down” by them when you’re with them 24/7 and easier to stick to your guns all the time when you’re not.

  2. dk says:

    Yes I too agree..
    But what I have noticed or may b I think for boys, they all think in terms of strength and power. They behave well under someone more physically strong whether he/she spank or not. My son is so impressed by his dad’s muscles however he has never even yelled at him.
    But boys are boys comparison of power is always their.

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